From the heart!

Mental health in teens!

I’ve been thinking lately about mental health!⁣⁣⁣
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Especially with kids/teens… what is going on?⁣⁣⁣
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I understand that today’s teen growing up is different than the 1990s teen growing up in a lot of ways! ⁣⁣⁣
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I think social media is a huge part of the puzzle. Young girls thinking they have to be perfect because isn’t that what social media portrays? Everyone has a perfect life, perfect body and perfect family… why am I not perfect? ⁣⁣⁣
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My daughter is 14 and this is her first year in high school but it started in middle school! 7th grade girls are cutting and girls really started to get so so mean. The things she would come home and tell me were outrageous! Telling her she had stick legs and that they were going to break them, asking her why she hasn’t killed herself yet etc…⁣⁣⁣
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What! Why? Where is this coming from?⁣⁣⁣
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Are we truly raising these girls to say these things? ⁣⁣⁣
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Then it transitions to vaping, sending nudes, snap chat, girls slandering other girls on social media and we aren’t even in high school yet!⁣⁣⁣
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Then we transition to high school. I’m only experiencing this with my daughter who is now in 9th grade so I can’t speak for beyond 9th grade.⁣⁣⁣
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Now we’ve transitioned to THC and the harder stuff. Why? Because vaping is for middle schoolers so let’s take it up a notch and put some THC in the vapes. How about the random penis/vagina picture that gets spread around the school that totally ruins someone’s self worth. Why did they send it in the first place?⁣⁣⁣
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My daughter came home talking about one of her best friends and boyfriend both struggling with depression, anxiety and panic attacks. My daughter is also on depression medication because of everything with school and her dad and I divorcing.⁣⁣⁣
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I honestly don’t wonder why mental health in kids is not okay. I worry about what’s next. What can we do to change this? I seriously got to the point where I was going to quit my job and homeschool! I realized putting them in a bubble isn’t going to help either.⁣⁣⁣
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I think the key is having an open conversation EVERY single day with your child about what’s going on. It’s easy to be so caught up in all of our responsibilities as a parent that we forget to slow down and connect.⁣⁣⁣
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I thought giving my daughter space as she pushed me away everyday was the right thing until she cut her wrist! That was her cry for help. She acted like she didn’t want to talk to me and hated me but deep down inside she wanted me to sit on her bed and just be there. ⁣⁣⁣
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There were nights I just sat there in silence as she refused to talk to me but you know what? ⁣⁣⁣
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I was there, I was listening if she did want to talk and I told her over and over I’m not going anywhere! I will ALWAYS be here! ⁣⁣⁣
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We still have our mother/daughter struggles don’t get me wrong but someday I hope she realizes that she is very loved, to embrace her uniqueness and that it is okay to not be okay some days. ⁣⁣⁣
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Thank you all for listening to my heart! 😘⁣⁣⁣

One comment

  1. Beautifully said. You have both grown so much in the past few months, I’m so proud of both of you.
    Every one needs at least one person in their life who thinks the sun rises and sets on them, and loves them unconditionally. I LOVE my girls!!!

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